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Now, I'm not trying to rush anyone into anything; however, it takes a lifetime to accumulate a lifetime of belongings, and it's going to take (what feels like a lifetime) to start paring them down to move on to the next phase of life.
Kids moved out? Is their stuff still in your house? Believe me, you're not the only one!
No longer skiing or kayaking or camping or [any other variety of hobbies], but still have the equipment in your garage?
Life ebbs and flows and while it can be uncomfortable to think about the future for many, I'd like you to try and focus on the positives that this new phase (with less physical things) can bring.
We can all agree that time is a gift. What we don't often stop to think about is how our physical belongings take up our time and energy. The more we have in our homes, the more we have to maintain, dust, repair, keep track of, spend time organizing... the list goes on. As we downsize our homes and physical belongings, we are subconsciously awarding ourselves more time to have experiences and spend with loved ones
What good is that bike doing in your garage that you no longer ride? It could be donated to Wheels for Workers 716 (for example), which refurbishes bikes and gives them to people who rely on bike transportation to work.
If it feels overwhelming to think about paring down your life's collection of things, focus on what the 100% non-negotiable items are in your life that you definitely want to take with you in the next phase. Focus on your favorites, the ones you can't part with, then gently let go of those with lesser meaning.
We cleaned out my Grandma and Grandpa's home well after they had both passed. They were collectors, as many of that generation are. Deciding what to do with all of their belongings was hard, but what was harder for me is that they weren't there to tell the stories. What was the story behind the antique egg-weigher I found? Did my Grandma just buy it at a garage sale? Or did they have chickens and sold their eggs? No one in the family knew, so as much as this item was interesting to me as an antique, I craved more. Stuff without the stories is just stuff.
If we want our families to appreciate some of the items we've collected, we have to tell them why they're important. If you have the gift of time, I urge you to start paring down now. While everyone's still here. While you can still share the stories and memories behind the items. Giving your kids a storage unit full of stuff is not a gift; giving them stories and memories and knowledge through those items is.
Reminiscing is good. Sharing memories and life lessons is good. Living in the past or feeling completely shackled by belongings from the past - so much that you couldn't even entertain scaling down to a smaller space - is not good.
Be honest: Where are you in your life right now? Today? What are your hobbies? Your needs? Do you still entertain a lot? Do you decorate as extensively for every holiday as you once did? Asking yourself open ended and honest questions about what life looks like today will help you. Taking it one step further to look at the future and prepare yourself is even better.
In closing, no one ever regretted getting things done early. No one ever packed for a vacation the weekend before and wished they left it until the last minute. Instead of thinking of decluttering to downsize as a 1 weekend project, think of it as a gradual shift - which can be in process for years - so that one day, when that day comes, you are prepared and not overwhelmed.
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